Yeah, on my part, all I did (which was bad enough) was leave comments on ff.n stories that I thought the authors had Gotten the Characters Wrong in shipping them ways that would be illegal here in the US if it were done in real life (I think it was mainly incest stuff). Which, it's understandable that teen me would think that - because as some of the disagreements went on the Fanlore wiki page about the Three Rules, those can be problematic in encouraging some abusive relationships - at the same time, it's not for me to go tell people to stop writing it, that's what free speech is all about. I eventually figured that out and quit doing that, and while I still don't read incest generally (I don't read much porn, period, but that's more to do with being ace), I know it's not my business to tell anyone else what not to write or read. One reason I love the AO3 tagging system so much - it makes it really easy to tell what a fic has and how to avoid it if I don't want to read it. And mostly I've found people use it fairly well - I don't think I've run into many fics that were badly mistagged. (The worst mistakes I tend to find are people who are confused about RPF and tag non-RPF fics as RPF for the movie or whatever when their stories are really about the characters, and that, at least, is not going to be a trigger or squick for anybody.)

Thanks! :D I believe it was a quote from a Young Wizards book - I've been using it for years.